MOMMIES, IT'S AN ORDER: Keep On Dating Your Hubby!

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The little champ is having her nap. Oh how alluring the soft bed is! I was close to succumbing to passing out completely on the bed, but I peeeeeeled myself off it to engage in a movie with the husband. The movie started screening, the coke sizzling and the nacho cheese was piping hot. With a smile as wide as a Cheshire Cat, I sinked my teeth into the yummy crunchy chips when…. softly but surely, you hear it in the background : "mama... maammaaaaa! Why am I aloneeeeee?"
I looked over to my husband and our eyes screamed, " NOOOOooo!!!!!"

You know how it feels to be interrupted just because the "little grizzly bear" has woken? Hence, I vote enthusiastically for dates! No worries about the child, I can immense myself in a movie, a good relaxing brunch without fretting or just beer&chips talk at home. You'll think I'll happily tear myself away from the little champ? It ain't that easy and I believe many mommies would know the feeling!

This struggle is especially hard if both the little champ and I had a tough episode or after a few days of little hours together. It's as if I'll want to make up for it by spending time with her. Guilt may start creeping in when I'm with my hubby alone, tugging at my heart strings, but I'd mindfully push it away.

The husband and I have recognized that with a child, couple time between husband and wife is tougher to obtain and it takes effort. Spontaneity with "last min dates" has made us very adaptable to changes in situations or time tables. Key word: FLEXIBILITY! With help and support from family to babysit the little champ, dates are possible.

It ain't about me. It ain't about the kid. Because the husband deserves my time. Because my marriage started off just me and the husband. Because having a healthy relationship will mean a healthy family relationship. It ought to deserve my attention. And gladfully, I did.