Walk past my corridor and you would hear her cry bloody murder. A min past. Two. Soon, it was 20mins and her angry cries hasn't stopped. Her fists thrown up and down in the air, face all red and wet from tears. My mom was visiting and to witness this bawling made her soft-heart cringe. Me? I’d sat beside the angry toddler. Held her when she wanted to.
I neither interfered nor rebuke. My toddler was frustrated about a routine gone wrong (or so I’d thought), her emotion impulses took over and she had no control over it. We had to allow this sense of rage pass. Witnessing a small window of calmness, I swooped into action, probing a little. Turned out, my toddler had mistaken the washing-machine for a bin. She liked her “old” clothes and had wanted to keep them despite having new ones. It sure took me sometime to convince her that we were merely washing it and that they were safe from the bin. FANCY THAT?!
It may have somewhat seemed like eternity. But she’d calmed down and walked to me for comfort. I hugged my little angry chick and showered her with kisses. I’d reaffirmed to her that all was okay.
Without understanding beforehand of what this could have been, I could have erupted too! However, I knew this was one of the many possible ways a toddler of 2 years would act in times of frustrations, and it was not her fault.
In fact, as my husband and I did our "homework" by reading and communicating to supportive parents , we became aware of the intense milestones and developments that our little champ was going through. And I must say, it helped our sanity when situations like these arise. You may recognize a few of the common things from a 2-3 year old, includes and not limited to, the following that my very own daughter experiences:
So there you have it: the difference milestones, night terrors, teething, caring for a child who fought the cough-flu-fever upon commencing school childcare.. etc. These could had easily drove us up the wall if we didn't understand most of what was happening!
Moreover, having another child so close in gap may also have meant the division of attention, and with this emotional development going on, adults could easily just "lose it" without having the space to step back, breathe and approach.
Yes, every yearly development milestone would surely have it's challenges. However, being equipped with information, together with the better stability in her emotions and understanding as she got older, we had then decided that it was time to “add another to the nest”.
Honestly, it was a step up with our confidence as parents. Us, equipped with the armor and strategy for "battle". Fingers crossed!
All 3 of us sisters will be sharing stories from our different perspectives. The good, the bad and the ugly, we're telling it as it is.