Breastfeeding (bf) beyond a year is a controversial topic. We get a lot of, ‘wow it’s over a year, why are you still bf? You should stop’ or ‘he’s a big boy now, bf is for babies’.
Deciding to stop bf meant I had to resort to breakaway methods. This is an old school method someone shared with me, ‘apply bittergourd/chilli or anything unpleasant on myself whenever he wanted to latch’. Another method is to keep saying no, and deliberately cutting yourself off from your toddler by being in a separate room at night. This meant that he/she will be crying for you while you hide away.
I have tried saying no no to him a couple of times. His reaction? He gave a shocked look, followed by broken-hearted (literally upside down smile) tearing. This got me to do some reading up and I’m glad to say it reaffirmed me to stick to what feels best for us. There really isn’t a perfect or right method that one should follow.
If you’re wondering what the goodness is all about… It’s amazing.
Nutrition-the composition of the breast milk continues to change and meet the needs of the baby/toddler at different age.
Boosted immunity-he receives the antibodies whenever he latches. Their immune system is still developing.
Liquid gold- no other milk can replicate breast milk. Its gold standard in infant nutrition.
Quality time-It gives us the time to lie down and cuddle! For toddler mums you will understand
Comfort- supports their mental and emotional well-being. Toddlers love to explore and are at the stage of gaining more independence. It’s a way to soothe when they are hurt, upset and having a tantrum.
Every family is different and instead of adding pressure, why not give a mother more support? Joash was exclusively breastfed since birth and it definitely did not started easy. As long as a baby is fed, you’re doing great! I would tell mommies out there, ‘’choose whatever that rocks your boat! You're the mum, you decide’’.
There’s too many benefits for me to say stop. Although yes I wont deny that I do look forward to having my body and freedom back. But these can wait. He will only be a baby and toddler once. It’s a personal decision. It’s what suits best for the family. I’m grateful my hubby Jazer has been supportive since the day we stepped into parenthood. For now, we will embrace it!
All 3 of us sisters will be sharing stories from our different perspectives. The good, the bad and the ugly, we're telling it as it is.